Good day everyone.
Just a note for you on what we are learning about taking care of yourself that goes along with caring for your wavy/curly hair.
Self Care is so important.
It is part of my own personal vocabulary to understand myself better as 'self care' was not really on my radar. Over time it just faded away and I was wondering why I wanted to check out or even just give up at times.
Maybe you can relate - or if you are on a path of self care now then reply back with how you are caring for yourself with tips that can be used in another blog for helping others in the near future.
As a curly hair specialist - or as other people in service industries do with always putting other people above themselves - can lead to burn out or a sense of not caring anymore - it's so important to learn to step back and learn to find things to renew yourself so that you remain passionate to continue - not just for others- but for an invigorating LIFE.
I learned to time block...
Good day everyone.
When people come into my studio or attend one of my live trainings they discover quickly that I am an introvert.
Because I am found online, or that I have a social media presence, create videos or speak in front of others they think that I am an Extrovert.
When I started my online presence I was behind the computer writing. I failed English twice and even went to Summer school to make sure I moved on to the next grade - so, for me to write and get found in searches for help is amazing in of itself. It proves that if I can risk putting myself out there with my failed background....so can you.
What happened over time as people read my blogs and business Facebook page providing free content is that I was asked by other hairstylists to teach my methods to help them with their business and so I started what is now called Curly Hair Artistry.
When I was building up to that first live training my stomach was in knots, my emotions were all over the...
Perfection is Boring.
I was a photographer and did my own #blackandwhitefilm development and printing.
#richardavedon impacted my art with his journey and I was inspired to take this photo after not shaving for 4 days, I refreshed my hair with who knows what and I don’t care how I look. What is not shown in the photo is what is going on in my soul - as I was going through a change of perspective based on changing how I am doing my business. Parts of my soul was in pain and the other parts were excited and yet I was transitioning to uncertainty and there was no path for me to follow....I had to forge ahead and create a path on my own.
My friend @danielleduran_curls (Instagram) came up with the quote “Perfection is Boring” and I thought that this is kinda like getting a tattoo in that you don’t care what other people think...you do it for yourself.
When your hair heals and becomes healthy over time you can let go of ‘perfection’...
There was a great question that popped up in our Cultivate Your Curls private Facebook community and wanted to share it with you for your consideration and learning of what is possible for your own wavy/curly hair.
Celeste asked me a great question:
Scott Musgrave I hope you are doing okay through Florence. I don't expect an answer right away, I'm not sure if you have power... Anyway, I've been curious about something. You mention that you can use the same 4 products one very client and have good results. I'm sure you also do this for yourself, and I'm wondering if the products ever stop working for you? Do you have to rotate any of them? It seems like I have great results with new products for a week or two and then it goes down hill. I detox and still have problems. I think it might be my protein/moisture balance. I could probably use a good non-protein filler. I just got LHDC for a non-protein conditioner. Curious on your thoughts? You mentioned we have similar hair...
As I work with my clients in my chair and on my online course Cultivate Your Curls w/ The MAP Method I realize the journey many of us are on and find it fascinating what we can pursue what is reality based or fantasy based....or even more. We are putting our energy into 'something' and the goal of this article is to see what we are doing is contributing to something that is of value.
Lets take a peek at what resides in our being - this is based on a writing example I learned years ago:
There are four levels of an individual self:
The Public Self: This is the level that you communicate to the world.
The Private Self: This is the emotional and internal world of an individual.
The Fantasy Self: This level is where daydreams, night dreams and fantasies reside.
The Ideal Self: This fourth and final level of self wants perfection.
(Breathing Life Into Your Characters by Rachel Ballon pg. 220 Hardbound ed.)
Take out your Curl Journey Journal...
One thing I have noticed in our industry that is different and determines the success of your business is not being considered much and that is the power and voice of your client.
For people with wavy/curly hair - the 'consumer' - the 'client' - is over-riding our industry with knowing how to work with their hair. Yup - read that one again.
There are so many communities, website forums, Facebook groups/pages, Instagram influencers and local meet ups that have been created and perfected based on one thing: LACK OF SERVICE & HELP FOR WHAT THEY DESIRE.
Lack of service to help and serve them has driven the desire for help and shifted this from hairstylist/salon to EACH OTHER.
Let me explain a bit - I noticed that I was learning EVERYDAY a lot of great tips from my clients that sat in my chair. I noticed that other stylists - that did this as well - had a deep passion for serving and assisting others that was different than brand based knowledge or from the...